Late Night Bootycall

You have to admit no matter how old you are or where your from no guy should be calling you at 1:50 AM on your cell. It's one thing if your close friends & you honestly just need to talk. If there is an emergency type of situation applies and there are exceptions. I totally understand! Can I let you in on an almost a universal secret? It's extremely disrespectful to call someone when they are probably sleeping! It's very much understood most people after 12 PM are asleep trying to rest up. Whoever it is calling you or texting you  after that clearly doesnt respect you! They are just trying to figure out who is horny and who is still awake? Period! Sorry end of the fucking discussion! Don't be sorry and don't answer the phone. You know what to do! This is just the perfect song to match because people lie to get what they want especially action hahaha nah but this is a good song! The rapper in the video is a Twitter buddy of mine named Mikealis. He's an awesome guy! Please support him!

There Just Has To Be Balance ( Relationship Musings)

The more I let go the better I feel! That seems to be my new out look on everything. I feel so much better when I don't try to mange and control everything. I'm not always a believer in letting destiny take its course but in terms of relationships though ( this idealogy has been working out for me). When people decide to walk out of our lives it's not our job to make sure they come back. Even though it hurts like hell we have to let them walk. We have to live out the lives that are in us! Therefore, maybe the universe or some divine creator is trying to push us away from things that are bad for us. The biggest thing that I've learned to not let a bad dating experience get in the way of me looking towards the future positivitely. Let's be honestly there are alot of jerks out there! Going through those experiences and trying to weed out the bad seeds has only made me a better dater. I learned the best through trial and sometimes painful errors. I'm reaching some conflicting ideas in my mind. I think there are times where a relationship is worth fighting for and worth trying to save. It just depends on the situation. As the saying goes you have to let someone go and if they really love you they will come back.
It brings up the question is it better to love with your head or with your heart? Will we ever have an answer to this question? My guess is the today until never! I think people have to use both equally to succeed! We need our hearts! How can you love someone who never shows any emotion or can't give any love? We need our heads at the same time! We need to look at people's prospects, goals, lifestyles and habits. The combination of the two can lead people to find good partners for the long term.

Why Would You Ever Change Yourself For A Guy?

It makes me so sick and angry that women seem to think changing for the guy is okay! What happened to having standards and sticking to your guns? I'm tired of seeing it everywhere. For example, if you have a man in your life then there's absolutely nothing wrong with taking an interest in sports. But don't fake the interest when you know you would rather be at home watching Grey's Anatomy or My Big Fat Greek Wedding! Just be yourself! Stand behind your words & morals. Be your own person! Have your own mind! In the end, that's way more attractive than being a YES girl.

P.S - Bottom line be beautiful , bold & courageous but don't take anyonelse's bullshit!

How To Get Through A BreakUp

1.  Be honest - Don't ignore the person who is trying to talk to you! Ignoring someone is only going to make the situation worse I promise you. If the issues at hand aren't being the handled then an even bigger fight is bound to happen. Don't leave the person you are breaking up with in a "grey" area. It's just not right. Karma is a bitch & doesn't discrimate.

2. Don't say let's be friends if you honestly want a friendship - This is the go to line for people these days! People always say were better off as friends. No I've used that line before & that's code for your a nice guy but I'm not interested anymore. Let's part ways. If I see you in the street I'll act like a good friend & like I wanna hang out - in reality I want to be left alone forever. Understand me?

3. Don't answer your phone- It's okay for you to declare yourself some me time! Go get your nails or hair done. Pamper yourself or go hang out with your friends! Anything to help yourself feel more relaxed.

4. Break up in a public place - Depending on the serious nature of the relationship do it in person! You owe it to the person your breaking up with at least a meeting in person! Try to not do it over text messaging or IM unless you feel like thats your only option of getting away!

5. Listen to your heart - You know when a relationship isn't working out long before it even happens to fall apart. There are red flags all over the place. For me it's certain things people say that tip me off long before.

P.S - This phase doesn't last forever but it will feel like a long time before you feel like yourself again. Honestly, being single is awesome ;) Hang in there buddy!

Celebrating The Break Up!

There are moments when I catch myself thinking about calling my ex! I have to remind myself how far I've come on my journey and that I NEVER needed him. I only deluded myself into thinking that I did. Guys & Girls no matter how shitty you feel being alone we have to come to some conclusions. The first is that sometimes people are going to hurt us. But I promise you its not the end of the world! Everyone has someone in the world that they were made for. It's just maybe you haven't found them yet. I try not to look at this break up in a negative way. I don't think people understand its even harder to end a relationship. It's easy to get dumped honestly! It's even harder to be on the other side of that and feel like your needs aren't getting fullifed. It's important though to make a clean break from the person you were with. There are some ex's of mine I just don't even talk to anymore. It's tempting to fall back into the old ways. You just have to remind yourself your destiny isn't tied up with certain people. It's okay to let go of things that aren't working. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't treat me like a queen! NEVER CHASE SOMEONE ELSE! LET THEM GO THEIR OWN WAY! XOXO

P.S - Love like you have never been hurt before & never let the bitterness from the past leave its mark on you!

The Break Up Playlist!

It's amazing how a song can totally change your mood! Since I'm sorta in that post break up phase I wanna hook you up with some songs that will totally improve the frame of mine & make you wanna dance! I swear the music almost makes everything all better. Just remember never let the past define you because everyone has so much to live for! XOXO! Enjoy the music!

                           Can't go wrong with some X-tina on your playlist & she never gets old!
   

I love Beyonce's new song Who Runs The World! She knows how write the best girl power songs!

I love Jessie J ! She has such a unique sound and really has blown up in popularity the last few years. Her song is called Do It Like A Dude by Jessie J

 

Girls Up by Bella Amie is just a really catchy song! This is the girls first single and they are from the United Kingdom. They've also relased a few other songs to follow up to this single. Happy Listening!

Of course I gotta throw in some Kelly Clarkson for the the American Idol fans! Kelly Clarkson always has alot of  good break up song! Since You Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson is all the way from her second album. It's an old song but definitely a goodie for sure!

Johnny Lang is always an emotional more bluesy feel like type of singer! His voice is so sexy ; I'm sorry! Haha, yeah I'm like a die hard fan over here. This song is about him having his heart broken by a girl that he truly loved. I think some of us can totally relate to this song as we try to move on.

P.S I love you guys & I will add more tunes as I see fit or write a comment and tell me if there's a song you think I should put on the Break Up Playlist! I would love your input. What type of songs get you through your break ups?

Love Is A Gamble

This entry has taken me forever to muster up the courage to even write this one.
I've been emotionally turned inside out and upside down. I just decided to break up with
my boyfriend. I'm okay. I know in my heart I made the right choice. The biggest lesson is to know when to cut your losses and move on. Love is a gamble. I still would have done everything the exact same way because I needed to learn. There is no way to turn around a one sided relationship! Once the situation happens you can't really do anything. You have a few options! 1) Express your displeasure but stay for a while 2) Leave the bitch alone and realize your too good for them. Ultimately love yourself !3) Stay with the relationship because you think its much better than being alone. I'm just glad I'm out of that terrible cold and distant relationship. There were red flags I will admit! At least I'm learning and I'm still really young so I'm not in a hurry to get it all right. I'm just glad getting out of this didn't take me more than two weeks. I''m just very relieved and glad to be single again. I am glad to have moved on from this awful nightmare of a relationship. I was tired of doing all the work. Can you blame me? Of course, when I needed help with issues going on in my life he would say i dont know? Sorry! I'm done with these little boys who cant handle a real diva.

P.S - There's another cute guy who wants to hang out soon and lives near me ! Always another million reasons to hope baby ;)