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Sunday, February 19, 2012

What I Really Think of Shows Like the Bachelor

For my international friends, The Bachelor is an American television program about finding your special someone. I'm disgusted I'm still even watching this show. I'm in it to see the hookups, the cat fights, competitions and the meltdowns. The premise of show ( if you don't know) basically putting twenty five women in house together. That doesn't sound so bad right? A house full of women sounds like a sorority sister club! Wrong!!! The catch is that these women are all after the same man! The competition is extremely fierce across the board. Anyone on The Bachelor show is hand picked by producers and has to be interviewed extensively . You put the prettiest, smartest, most accomplished women in America all under one roof? It's going to be dramatics and waterworks. Americans seem to want a love story so we can't help but love this show. I'm bothered that I'm still watching this show. The show seems to make for a game of hearts and who can get the man's attention. In real life does this Bachelor situation happen? Whether we realize it or not at one point in time there has be at least one person we have competed for. Men can probably relate to this more than women. Many women are sadly still judged more on how she looks than her intellectual abilites. Why does society seem to market towards women brimming over with sexuality? Society would love to say that we are above our human nature but we aren't. People are competitive by nature. We want the hottest boyfriend or girlfriend! We want the nicest car without breaking the piggy bank! We want the nicest crib! I could go on and on about the materialistic ideas. The fact is that real love sees beyond materialism!

The Salt In My Coffee

First dates are always so nerve racking. Your totally stressing! You wanna be as cute possible! You want to basically put your best self forward. How to handle all those nerves around the person you like? AHHH! HELP! Well, what I can say is the let the conversation develop naturally. A good starting point in a date is get the other person talking about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. When I say get your date to talk about themselves as them about their job, activities they like, movies and TV. I will admit I get crazy nervous about a date when I walk out the door! I will use my recent first date as an example for how your nerves can effect you. Okay so, I'm on date at a cozy cafe with this really cute army guy. Damn, I was way too busy staring in his gorgeous eyes. I really didn't notice I had mistaken the salt for the sugar. However, I was a complete idiot. I should have totally know that sugar was in packets labeled. The salt shaker was clearly distinguishable sitting next to marked sugar. In my house I put the sugar in its own container ( so I had a little mix up). I was extremely lucky my date though my mistake was totally funny. He stopped me before I drank the salt in my coffee. Thank God! It would have tasted terrible. He thought it was cute and I was able to laugh off my mistake. It could have been a disaster date but it seemed like my mistake broke the ice. It did end up being an extremely successful date and we are working on seeing each other again. The lesson seems to be even if you do something wrong just laugh off the mistake. The guy or girl your seeing might find that to be adorable or quirky. Don't beat yourself up if you happen to do something by accident. Let's face it we all do silly things!

What Happened On My Valentines Day?

Well, for me since Valentines  fell on Tuesday I didn't do much of anything. It was my day off from going to classes. I listened to a lot of single people bitch and whine the whole day. The people that I knew who were in relationships seemed disappointed when their significant other fell short of expectations. My heart totally goes out to them! For me, Valentines Day came a few days early. I had a date planned. I really like this new guy. He's a rare find. He makes me smile. We make each other laugh and we seem to vibe really well off each other's energy. It was getting towards the end of the date and we were having some quiet time talking to each other. He pulled out two boxes of chocolate. One of the boxes of chocolate turned out to be genuine Godiva chocolate. He also had another small gift for me. It made me realize something about myself. I say I'm an independent woman but I really do love a romantic man. After he pulled out the gifts he asked if I would be his Valentine! We kissed for a long time and of course I said YES! I couldn't have planned a better Valentines Day surprise.

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Sometimes I Think Men Are Clueless

If you want to attract the right kind of woman men really need help sometimes! My God! Don't lead with your sexual feelings first! I know the penis does the picking but put it back in your pants! This goes for anyone! People don't wanna hear about how long its been since you had a good f***! What the hell is wrong with people sometimes? Don't ever joke with a serious woman about how you think maybe shes a DTF kind of girl!

Why Is Love so Hard to Come by?

I think a variety of reasons can play into our own fears and insecurities about why we can't find it.  I think I speak for a lot people when I say our biggest fear is going through this life alone. Love is the one thing we all crave and want in the worst way. However, I'm not willing to short change my morals to reach my goals. I was tested when this cute guy from my school approached me. It was midnight and he said he wanted to hang out. I would have had to sneak out of my house at that hour. I always advocate against women being booty calls. This time I followed my own advice! I wanted to see him but I realized my virtues and the relationship with myself is more important than "getting a guy".