Saturday, November 30, 2013
I went out on a date this guy from one of my college classes. We were project group members & that is how we got to talking. I feel like the relationship talk started way too early it has really made me uncomfortable. I realize my pull away behavior is just making me more attractive because it's making him chase me. This is pretty much the opposite of what I want. I feel like I've tried to tell him I don't want a relationship. I'm okay with still being friendly when we see each other at school. But I don't need it to go any farther than what it is right now. I had brought up possibly going on a date and he agreed because seemed interested. I went on the date basically like not knowing what to expect. He was a chivalrous gentleman and paid for the date. Our date/hang out was at a small cafe near the school. I enjoyed talking to him very much also enjoyed his company. However, enjoying the company is different than having romantic feelings for another person. Maybe I am shallow? I always see him in class with his hat on and he never takes it off. He is 26 and severely balding underneath the hat! He is too young to be balding. How come he doesn't just shave it off? The other thing that I didn't like was that he was a smoker and it was yellowing his teeth badly. I really prefer to not date a smoker since I don't smoke myself. I think that is pretty fair and it is a big turn off for me. He is a huge Star Wars nerd and gamer neither those interest me that much. I feel like we have completely different interests when it comes down to it. Sure, I have watched Star Wars before like most people thought it was okay. But I'm not obsessed to the point where I have Star Wars movie tattoos. I don't think I can work with this ( no judgement on him personally). I think I'll pass on this on folks. He also told me that he spends two to three hours a day gaming. I think that is unwise since he isn't employed other than a work study job given by the school. Work study does count as having a job but he could probably have two jobs , spend more time studying or have more time to go out on dates if he wasn't busy with the games. Are the video games a priority or is having a girlfriend a priority? We kissed at the end of the date. Honestly, I felt no spark and it was awful. The guy didn't keep his lips relaxed enough for me so it was difficult to kiss him. He said that he liked the kiss but I didn't want no more parts of that. I just wasn't into it. I think my kisses can be very playful and sexual so it doesn't shock me. I've been kissing boys since I was thirteen so the experience adds up as grown up. I just wasn't feeling him on this date. I wanted to be into him but it just wasn't working. I feel like I tried to let him down easy and the best way possible. He just doesn't listen probably have to reestablish boundaries again.