How To Get Through A BreakUp

1.  Be honest - Don't ignore the person who is trying to talk to you! Ignoring someone is only going to make the situation worse I promise you. If the issues at hand aren't being the handled then an even bigger fight is bound to happen. Don't leave the person you are breaking up with in a "grey" area. It's just not right. Karma is a bitch & doesn't discrimate.

2. Don't say let's be friends if you honestly want a friendship - This is the go to line for people these days! People always say were better off as friends. No I've used that line before & that's code for your a nice guy but I'm not interested anymore. Let's part ways. If I see you in the street I'll act like a good friend & like I wanna hang out - in reality I want to be left alone forever. Understand me?

3. Don't answer your phone- It's okay for you to declare yourself some me time! Go get your nails or hair done. Pamper yourself or go hang out with your friends! Anything to help yourself feel more relaxed.

4. Break up in a public place - Depending on the serious nature of the relationship do it in person! You owe it to the person your breaking up with at least a meeting in person! Try to not do it over text messaging or IM unless you feel like thats your only option of getting away!

5. Listen to your heart - You know when a relationship isn't working out long before it even happens to fall apart. There are red flags all over the place. For me it's certain things people say that tip me off long before.

P.S - This phase doesn't last forever but it will feel like a long time before you feel like yourself again. Honestly, being single is awesome ;) Hang in there buddy!

Celebrating The Break Up!

There are moments when I catch myself thinking about calling my ex! I have to remind myself how far I've come on my journey and that I NEVER needed him. I only deluded myself into thinking that I did. Guys & Girls no matter how shitty you feel being alone we have to come to some conclusions. The first is that sometimes people are going to hurt us. But I promise you its not the end of the world! Everyone has someone in the world that they were made for. It's just maybe you haven't found them yet. I try not to look at this break up in a negative way. I don't think people understand its even harder to end a relationship. It's easy to get dumped honestly! It's even harder to be on the other side of that and feel like your needs aren't getting fullifed. It's important though to make a clean break from the person you were with. There are some ex's of mine I just don't even talk to anymore. It's tempting to fall back into the old ways. You just have to remind yourself your destiny isn't tied up with certain people. It's okay to let go of things that aren't working. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't treat me like a queen! NEVER CHASE SOMEONE ELSE! LET THEM GO THEIR OWN WAY! XOXO

P.S - Love like you have never been hurt before & never let the bitterness from the past leave its mark on you!

Love Is A Gamble

This entry has taken me forever to muster up the courage to even write this one.
I've been emotionally turned inside out and upside down. I just decided to break up with
my boyfriend. I'm okay. I know in my heart I made the right choice. The biggest lesson is to know when to cut your losses and move on. Love is a gamble. I still would have done everything the exact same way because I needed to learn. There is no way to turn around a one sided relationship! Once the situation happens you can't really do anything. You have a few options! 1) Express your displeasure but stay for a while 2) Leave the bitch alone and realize your too good for them. Ultimately love yourself !3) Stay with the relationship because you think its much better than being alone. I'm just glad I'm out of that terrible cold and distant relationship. There were red flags I will admit! At least I'm learning and I'm still really young so I'm not in a hurry to get it all right. I'm just glad getting out of this didn't take me more than two weeks. I''m just very relieved and glad to be single again. I am glad to have moved on from this awful nightmare of a relationship. I was tired of doing all the work. Can you blame me? Of course, when I needed help with issues going on in my life he would say i dont know? Sorry! I'm done with these little boys who cant handle a real diva.

P.S - There's another cute guy who wants to hang out soon and lives near me ! Always another million reasons to hope baby ;)