Disaster Date

I went out on a date this guy from one of my college classes. We were project group members & that is how we got to talking. I feel like the relationship talk started way too early it has really made me uncomfortable. I realize my pull away behavior is just making me more attractive because it's making him chase me. This is pretty much the opposite of what I want. I feel like I've tried to tell him I don't want a relationship. I'm okay with still being friendly when we see each other at school. But I don't need it to go any farther than what it is right now. I had brought up possibly going on a date and he agreed because seemed interested. I went on the date basically like not knowing what to expect. He was a chivalrous gentleman and paid for the date. Our date/hang out was at a small cafe near the school. I enjoyed talking to him very much also enjoyed his company. However, enjoying the company is different than having romantic feelings for another person. Maybe I am shallow? I always see him in class with his hat on and he never takes it off. He is 26 and severely balding underneath the hat! He is too young to be balding. How come he doesn't just shave it off? The other thing that I didn't like was that he was a smoker and it was yellowing his teeth badly. I really prefer to not date a smoker since I don't smoke myself. I think that is pretty fair and it is a big turn off for me. He is a huge Star Wars nerd and gamer neither those interest me that much. I feel like we have completely different interests when it comes down to it. Sure, I have watched Star Wars before like most people thought it was okay. But I'm not obsessed to the point where I have Star Wars movie tattoos. I don't think I can work with this ( no judgement on him personally). I think I'll pass on this on folks. He also told me that he spends two to three hours a day gaming. I think that is unwise since he isn't employed other than a work study job given by the school. Work study does count as having a job but he could probably have two jobs , spend more time studying or have more time to go out on dates if he wasn't busy with the games. Are the video games a priority or is having a girlfriend a priority? We kissed at the end of the date. Honestly, I felt no spark and it was awful. The guy didn't keep his lips relaxed enough for me so it was difficult to kiss him.  He said that he liked the kiss but I didn't want no more parts of that. I just wasn't into it. I think my kisses can be very playful and sexual so it doesn't shock me. I've been kissing boys since I was thirteen so the experience adds up as grown up. I just wasn't feeling him on this date. I wanted to be into him but it just wasn't working. I feel like I tried to let him down easy and the best way possible. He just doesn't listen probably have to reestablish boundaries again.

Places to Meet Your Next Boyfriend or Girlfriend

1) School - this a good place to start! Schools have a wide variety people. Try to get involved in a club you are passionate about ! ( more variety)

2) Concerts - always good tons of emo cuties or country rockers just depends  ( more musical)

3) Parties - awesome networking chances as well as being introduced to a hottie (more spontaneous)

4) Coffee Shop or Bookstore - always seems draw a plethora of interesting minds ( more intellectual)

5) Wine Tasting or Art Gallery - very sophisticated scene  ( more classy)

6) Online- wouldn't advise it but you might end up liking it. Give it a shot! (more unknown)

Celebrating The Break Up!

There are moments when I catch myself thinking about calling my ex! I have to remind myself how far I've come on my journey and that I NEVER needed him. I only deluded myself into thinking that I did. Guys & Girls no matter how shitty you feel being alone we have to come to some conclusions. The first is that sometimes people are going to hurt us. But I promise you its not the end of the world! Everyone has someone in the world that they were made for. It's just maybe you haven't found them yet. I try not to look at this break up in a negative way. I don't think people understand its even harder to end a relationship. It's easy to get dumped honestly! It's even harder to be on the other side of that and feel like your needs aren't getting fullifed. It's important though to make a clean break from the person you were with. There are some ex's of mine I just don't even talk to anymore. It's tempting to fall back into the old ways. You just have to remind yourself your destiny isn't tied up with certain people. It's okay to let go of things that aren't working. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't treat me like a queen! NEVER CHASE SOMEONE ELSE! LET THEM GO THEIR OWN WAY! XOXO

P.S - Love like you have never been hurt before & never let the bitterness from the past leave its mark on you!

The Break Up Playlist!

It's amazing how a song can totally change your mood! Since I'm sorta in that post break up phase I wanna hook you up with some songs that will totally improve the frame of mine & make you wanna dance! I swear the music almost makes everything all better. Just remember never let the past define you because everyone has so much to live for! XOXO! Enjoy the music!

                           Can't go wrong with some X-tina on your playlist & she never gets old!
   

I love Beyonce's new song Who Runs The World! She knows how write the best girl power songs!

I love Jessie J ! She has such a unique sound and really has blown up in popularity the last few years. Her song is called Do It Like A Dude by Jessie J

 

Girls Up by Bella Amie is just a really catchy song! This is the girls first single and they are from the United Kingdom. They've also relased a few other songs to follow up to this single. Happy Listening!

Of course I gotta throw in some Kelly Clarkson for the the American Idol fans! Kelly Clarkson always has alot of  good break up song! Since You Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson is all the way from her second album. It's an old song but definitely a goodie for sure!

Johnny Lang is always an emotional more bluesy feel like type of singer! His voice is so sexy ; I'm sorry! Haha, yeah I'm like a die hard fan over here. This song is about him having his heart broken by a girl that he truly loved. I think some of us can totally relate to this song as we try to move on.

P.S I love you guys & I will add more tunes as I see fit or write a comment and tell me if there's a song you think I should put on the Break Up Playlist! I would love your input. What type of songs get you through your break ups?